SouthLAnd 4.4 – Identity

Not the best job for someone contemplating motherhood.


Last week with Community, the focus was on people in groups working together (for good or bad). This week it’s all about how outsiders as individuals find out who they are and where they belong.


Lydia is chasing a teenager through a business center in the middle of the day, running full out. She tells the girl (Nicole) to stop, and she does. She begins sobbing, “I ruined everything.” Lydia wants to help her, gets close to put a hand on her back, but Nicole whips around with a knife and stabs Lydia’s arm, knocking her to the street. She jumps in a work truck and floors it, only to have a squad car (Reuben’s driving) block her path.

LAPD Officers spend every shift trying to help people who often don’t even know they need help. Some days the trying works better than others.”


8 Hrs. Earlier

Lydia is vomiting (and it sounds like actual puking, not TV puking) into her bathroom’s toilet, over and over. She finally comes out, finding that her mother has made breakfast. Oh, but Lydia’s not hungry. Her mother comes to the logical conclusion that her breasts are larger, she’s not hungry in the mornings, and she’s sick, ergo she’s pregnant. Lydia stays silent.

Her mother tells her that no matter what she chooses, Lydia will have her support. This throws Lydia for a loop; she didn’t expect the pro-choice option. Lydia is angry that male detectives don’t have to worry about this. “That’s because it’s their wives at home having the babies.”

She won’t say who the father is. (Side note, I find it interesting that Lydia – who has left her community in every way: the poor, hard neighborhood she grew up in, the girls she knew when growing up by virtue of becoming a homicide detective, and the brotherhood of policemen by her lone-wolf nature – is possibly going to have a child, something that will tie her to something else.)

Some dude starts harassing a girl on a street corner where Ben Sherman happens to be (off-duty). He gets the guy to leave and checks on the girl. She’s cute, they live in the same building, and she flirts a little just as a squad car rolls up.

And she’s anti-cop. “Fuck cops, right? You hear about that cop that punched that girl?” Damn, Ben.

Lydia is in the women’s restroom at the station throwing up. She goes to wash up when Jessica comes out of a stall. Uh oh. Jessica figures out quickly what’s what. “Congratulations?” Lydia still doesn’t admit to anything. Jessica leaves with the advice, “Put off telling them until you can’t buckle your belt.” (So who is Lydia? A mother? A detective?)

Sammy and Ben are on patrol, talking about a sweet lady in the neighborhood (Abuelita) who was killed. It’s weird because everyone loved her, gang banger to pimp. Just a sweet lady who looked out for everyone. Sammy then starts the push to get Ben out of Silver Lake and move to a cop neighborhood by him. “Be with your people. Land of the Blue.”

I love that Sammy has been trying to be Ben for the past few episodes, wanting the easy freedom that Ben has, but ultimately he wants to be a married cop in a neighborhood of other cops. And he wants Ben to want that too. (If Ben wants that, maybe it’s cool for Sammy to want it.)

Lydia and Reuben head to a crime scene where a real-estate developer (Brian) was stabbed to death. Lydia mentions that she has to step out for a doctor’s appointment at lunch as they enter the scene. A girl (Jamaica) found him and is visibly upset. The victim runs a sort of halfway house for wayward girls upstairs, evidently. She won’t talk to Lydia, however.

Tang and Cooper are headed to their squad car when a shop owner comes over, irate that there’s a homeless man by his door. They go investigate and it’s Tom, a guy Cooper has seen many times. He was in housing, but someone stole his ID, so he’s back on the streets. They try to help him up but he fights them off. Tang sees a USMC tattoo on his forearm. She seems more interested in helping him now.

Sammy and Ben are cruising and we learn that Fergusen is getting plastic surgery and is making a recovery. They roll up on a mugging in action; Sammy goes to the victim, Ben chases the mugger. Sammy races after Ben and stops when he hears a clang inside a dumpster. He pulls his sidearm and yells, “Come out with your hands up, POLICE!” We hear a loud bang.

Lydia has talked Jamaica into letting her upstairs where we learn that another girl and her mother are also living. (Nicole and Melanie, respectively.) While Melanie is on the phone fighting with a pharmacist, Jamaica attacks Nicole, claiming that Nicole killed Brian. Lydia gets between them, Melanie tells Nicole to not say another word, then she says, “I did it. I killed Brian.”

Sammy, back in the alley, is whipping off his kevlar and undershirt. There is a German Shepherd panting and bleeding on a piece of cardboard in front of him. It seems Sammy shot the dog when it “came after him.” He tries to stop the bleeding with his undershirt and tells Ben (who is amused and also holding the mugger) that he called an ambulance. Sammy then goes off on the mugger for causing this, getting really belligerent, until Ben tells him to chill the hell out. The EMTs are pissed they were called for a dog, but if Sammy gives them two Lakers tickets, they’ll drop the dog off at a nearby vet. Done.

Lydia interviews Melanie at the house, wanting to know details. Brian was sleeping with Nicole, she found out. She lost it and “handled the situation.” She tells Lydia about how important Nicole is to her, asks if she has any kids, then says, “God gives you the test you need.”

“So Nicole, was that test?” Lydia asks.

“Since the day she was born.” Nicole has all manner of disorders, it seems: attachment disorder, ADHD, borderline personality… Brian was like a father-figure to her. Then to find out that he was having sex with her? (She’s only 15.) She trusted that man with her girl, and he abused that trust. So.

Tang is on the phone with the county hospital trying to find a birth certificate for Tom. She yells into the phone as John tries to get her to focus on the road. Some random dude pops his head into the window at a light, claiming that they have his car. He starts freaking out. John hops out, the guy claims he’s invisible and John can’t see him, so John grabs his hand and puts him in a hold. Whoops, guess he can. I would like to state publicly how much I adore Tang and Cooper as partners.

Sammy heads to the vet to find out what can be done for the dog. Well, it has no owners, the surgery it needs is expensive, so euthanized it is! Sammy is not okay with that, it’s practically murder! If the dog can be fixed, Sammy wants them to do it. “So… how much?”

Cut to Dewey laughing hysterically. Ben is shocked and asks Sammy, “$1300?” Sammy is trying to do the right thing here. And hey, maybe he’ll take it home and have a buddy, who knows? Dewey is just pissed that the EMTs came so fast for a dog when he shot some kid’s thumb off last year and it took them forever to get there. Dewey is rough around the edges, but you have to admit he has a point.

Lydia is off to her appointment, so Reuben is left with the task of searching the apartment while the girls lay around. He finds a shirt in the laundry basket with blood splatters. Uh oh.

At the OB/GYN, Lydia says when her last period was (she’s missed a month, maybe two at most.) She had a previous miscarriage, which ups her chances for another one, especially as she’s 36. This will also increase her chances for birth defects. It’s shocking that she could get pregnant seeing as she has so little body fat, so if she’s going to do this, it’s probably her last chance. Way to paint an exciting picture, Doc.

Her doctor says she really should take a leave of absence so she doesn’t miscarry at work. Lydia does not miss work, thank you so much. She’s not going to take any time off. (So she’s not going to be a mother?)

Sammy continues to work through his own issues by berating Ben for not living in Cop Land. And he lives in a great place for a pet. Maybe he’ll take the dog home with him. He used to have a dog. He used to have a lot of things: a house, a wife, a child, and a dog. But he doesn’t have that now. (So who is he? He still has the responsibilities of a father, but doesn’t get to live the life. He’s in limbo.) They spy two kids with the same tattoos as the mugger. Hmm.

Reuben realizes that the patrol officer he had stationed in the living room while he went searching for clues let Nicole slip out of a window. So…Melanie is probably not guilty, we’re thinking. Lydia takes his phone call where he apologizes for messing up. She heads back out of the doctor’s office.

Sammy and Ben roll up on the two kids and chase them down (it’s not a proper episode if they don’t haul ass in a dead sprint.) They realize that one kid has a huge bag of pot on him; the other doesn’t, so he’s let go. Oh, but it’s not pot, it’s oregano. (Ha!) This kid’s too stupid to know that he can’t be held for carrying when he isn’t, so Sammy uses his stupidity to strong arm him into giving them some information. (Sammy and Ben work really well together, I’d like to point out.)

The kid says he knows who killed Abuelita. They tried to start a beef with another rival gang (ha, they’re still wanting to be thought of as a gang, they’re still wanna bes) and one guy shot Abuelita. Now everyone knows they’re no joke. Well, the joke’s on you, kid, because you just shot an old lady; that doesn’t give you street cred, that ruins your cred.

Lydia meets Reuben at the station. She takes the bloody shirt with her into the interrogation room with Melanie. Lydia knows; she knows Nicole was the one, there are eye witnesses coming forward, and Melanie needs to tell her where Nicole has most likely run off to. Melanie is too busy praising her daughter for being someone; she won’t stray from her story. She’s determined to go to jail for Nicole.

In a scene of delightfully dark comedy, Cooper and Tang roll up to some train tracks, Jessica bitching at another person on the phone as she continues to look for ID for Tom. Someone has been pulverized by a train, torso on county side, limbs on LAPD side. While Jessica screams at the other person on the phone, John tries to push responsibility for who will take care of the mess onto the county guys.

Jessica shouts, “I guess I thought that because he’s a human being living on the streets like some kind of animal that you would want to help!” The county guys want her gone, fast. They tell John they’ve got it. He smiles and walks back to the squad car. (Michael Cudlitz has to be having a ball with his role this season. Cooper has been hilarious and awesome in equal measures.)

Reuben and Lydia are back cruising, looking for Nicole. He apologizes again for losing her. Lydia is just amazed that Melanie is sticking to her story. Well, Reuben says, it’s because she’s a mom. That’s what they do.

“You’d lie? Claim a murder?” Lydia asks.

Yep. And…he’s curious if she’s okay. His eyes travel to her waistline and back up to her face. She is fine, everyone. Mm hm.

Sammy and Ben are flooring it to the scene of an ongoing crime while Sammy continues to tout the benefits of his neighborhood. It’s hilarious how single-minded this guy is. He just wants Ben to find a nice girl (she needs to be nice at the start, not like Tammi) and get married. They pull up to the front of an indoor pool and race in where a woman is threatening a man with a knife. She’s shouting at him when Ben sees something in the pool.

He unstraps his holster and dives in where a little girl is floating face down, unresponsive. He pulls her out, gives her CPR until she coughs out water and starts crying. The woman goes right back to fighting with the man while Ben tries to pull himself together and soothe the little girl. Good work, officer. Bad mothering, lady.

Tang continues her search for someone who will give a damn when Cooper comes right out and asks her what gives. She got a thing for homeless dudes? “He’s a Marine.” Oh. Was she in the service? Not her, her father. Semper Fi, Leatherneck. You never leave a man behind, and this guy has been left behind in the most fundamental of ways. Cooper tells her to make a turn. They find Tom and clean him up (Jessica takes a lot of care to comb his hair and wash his face). John takes some pictures of him, asking him to give his best “Marine Tom face.”

The camera pushes in tight as Tom’s face gets serious; he has the haunted look of a soldier, that’s for damn sure. (I cannot for the life of me remember this character actor’s name, either. He’s outstanding.) He’s not the drunken hobo who pees on alley walls. He’s Tom the Marine.

The two cops then head to a place that specializes in fake IDs. How much do you love these guys? And I’m talking about the writers. Fake identities to help someone reclaim who they once were; so clever, given the episode’s subject.

Sammy finds a doggy bobblehead on his car, courtesy of Dewey. Sammy’s pissed at him; Ben then makes fun of him some more, for good measure. I love the teasing and banter between the partners. Sammy calls the vet to find out if the dog is out of surgery yet.

Jamaica shows Lydia and Reuben where Nicole is; once Nicole sees the detectives, she takes off running, with Lydia in hot pursuit. We’re caught up now with the beginning of the episode. She’s sobbing, Lydia is stabbed, the work truck smashes into Reuben’s car. Reuben gets out with his sidearm pulled as Nicole tries to drive over him. He shoots through the windshield, tagging her shoulder. She sits in the front seat, sobbing as Lydia cuffs her, seemingly sad to be in the position they’re in.

Lydia talks to her in the hospital. Why? Jamaica and Brian were sleeping together, and she reacted badly. She just wants to die; she doesn’t have any value and she’s ruined her mother’s life. Lydia’s maternal instincts kick in and she soothes Nicole. She asks if she’s ever noticed that when her mother talks about her, “her whole face lights up.”

Lydia says, “It’s like her life started when you were born.” Hmm. I’m concerned, guys, not gonna lie. More on that in a bit.

Cooper and Jessica find Tom and show him his new ID; now he can get into a shelter. He sees his face – it’s not the Marine Tom picture. He looks silly, old and toothless. He says, “That ain’t me!” and starts laughing maniacally. He starts getting really angry, “That’s not me! I don’t know who that is, but that’s not me!”

Jessica looks hurt (she went to a lot of effort) but looks like she gets it. That smiling fool? That’s not Tom. Cooper helps him up, Jessica takes his hand, and they slowly walk him to a new place to be. Tom whispers, “That’s not me,” over and over. Cooper says, “You know, I think you’re right, Tom.”

Excuse me while I cry brokenly.

A little levity is needed, so it’s time to check on the dog at the vet. And hey, look who’s here! The actual owner of the dog and his granddaughter. They don’t speak any English, but gosh, they are so grateful to Sammy. Now, about that bill… Yep, he still has to pay. Ben is about to collapse from laughing.

Later, Ben meets with a Realtor in Sammy’s neighborhood looking like he’s being forced to chew nails. It’s clean! It’s bright! It’s…boring. Everything Ben doesn’t want to be. (Talk about a fake ID…)

Lydia is leaving the hospital when she sees Melanie. Melanie isn’t in trouble for lying, but Nicole has been arrested. Lydia plays off the stab wound as not a big deal. Melanie just wanted more for her daughter, she’s worried. Oh, not for herself, she knows she’s strong.

Lydia is trying to come to a decision. She wants to know how Melanie can be like she is. Well, before she had Nicole, life was just work and outfits and magazines, she wasn’t really living until she had a baby.

“And now?” Lydia asks.

“I’m a rock. I know what my life is about.”

You know Lydia likes the symbolism of the rock. I find the whole “I had a baby and my life has meaning” argument to be incredibly problematic, however. (And I have children.) The idea that your life is rudder-less until you have to take responsibility for another person is just… well, it’s the modern version of the pastoral myth. And let’s examine how Nicole and Melanie’s life has been: non-stop trouble, they’re homeless, Nicole is mentally disordered, and now she’s going to jail for murder. So that’s what your life is about? Hm.

Reuben tells Lydia as he’s leaving that he thought she was pregnant. “That’s you being a detective?” she scoffs. (Guess he’s a good one, huh?) She takes responsibility for dropping Jamaica off at another halfway house. As they ride, she asks Jamaica about her mom. She was a partier, didn’t really care for the responsibilities of motherhood.

Jamaica asks, “You got kids?

Lydia pauses before saying, “Soon.”

“They’re gonna be lucky kids.”

*  *  *

Will they? Sure, she’s a good person. She’s loving and thoughtful and responsible, without question. But she chases down criminals and tackles murderers into pools and gets stabbed and shot at. She has no one else in her life (barring her mother, but she won’t always be there). Will her child be lucky?

My guess is that she’ll lose this baby, too. Thoughts?

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  • Erin

    Thanks for another great review! I don’t have much to say about Cooper and Tang, except that they’re awesome, and I love them together :)

    I’m enjoying the dynamic between Sammy and Ben, but I’m still on the fence about whether their partnership is actually a good idea. They both have some anger and impulse control issues that continue to get them into trouble. So far they’ve more or less balanced each other out, each recognizing when the other is getting agitated and taking steps to calm them down, but I’m worried about what might happen in a situation where they both lose control.

    Good catch on Sammy trying to be Ben for awhile. I think Sammy always tends to absorb something of his partner’s personality and preferences, which tends to work out better when his partner is more stable than he is. So I appreciate him trying to be a mentor to Ben instead of merely his wingman, but to be honest I’m still not buying what Sammy’s selling about the Land of the Blue. That life strikes me as something he might have decided that he wanted because that’s what Nate (and Sal, and apparently most of the male detectives) had, not because that’s where he as an individual is most comfortable. Is he so fanatical about it now because it keeps him from having to question his own choices? It seems that he still places a lot of blame on Tammy for being exactly the woman he chose to marry. Maybe Sammy honestly does just want to be a street cop living in a shitty apartment with a pretty, pot-smoking hipster and a rescue dog, but he’s unable to admit it to himself at this point. I don’t know. Maybe he really does want the suburban life. I just think he doth protest a little too much.

    I agree that the “I had a baby and my life has meaning” argument is problematic, particularly when used in real life as a way to pressure or shame people into having children they don’t want and/or can’t care for, but on the other hand there are many parents who do claim to have that experience. Southland is pretty committed to showing a variety of realistic perspectives without necessarily singling out one as the best, so it didn’t strike me that Melanie was being held up as any kind of example of Why All Women Should Have Babies. Hers was just one (troubled, if touching) experience, one voice that Lydia could choose to listen to or not. In this episode we also saw Lydia’s mom make the case that having a baby might not be the right choice for her, we saw her doctor offer a non-judgmental take on abortion vs. carrying the pregnancy to term, and we got plenty of evidence that a child, even a wanted one, doesn’t “fix” anything. On the other hand, does Lydia have to miss out on a life that she seems to want – currently exemplified by Reuben and his devotion to his family – because she doesn’t have a spouse at home to raise the kid(s)? That doesn’t seem fair, either. I don’t have a strong feeling on what I *want* to happen, as long as the writers treat her choices with respect.

    • Thank YOU for coming to read!

      I think the point you bring up with Sammy and Ben is valid, but at the same time, I wonder. This show is known for their red herrings (not obvious, but they exist.) I think about Nate, and how cool and collected he was; Sammy was the hot head. In a way, he’s trying to emulate that relationship with Ben. But Ben is definitely coming into his own as a thinking policeman. He obviously has a way to go, but still. I look forward to watching their relationship unfold to see where the show takes us.

      I DEFINITELY think the “Land of the Blue” is an idea Sammy’s trying to sell himself on. He really liked and loved Tammy, as you pointed out -and she ain’t no cop wife. (I still bang my head on my desk when I think about her taking pictures of a gang banger.) He’s trying to figure out who he really is (I think he knows what he thinks he SHOULD be, but isn’t sold on it.) And the same goes for Ben: Ben wants to be a cop. The more ingratiated he is into that culture, the more we’re seeing his honest reactions. “This is where you live? Um…”

      And yes, I agree that there are people that say that having a child changed them. (I just always knew I’d be a mother, it wasn’t an eye-opening/life changing thing for me.) I like that you point out that the show makes a point of being varied in their viewpoints – its strong-suit, for sure.

      I worry, though, about Lydia as what the character represents (smashing of the glass ceiling, break down of societal norms for Manly Jobs, etc.) having a revelation that through her womb she is healed, you know? Not that it can’t happen, it’s just…not new story telling. I’ve not given up faith in the Show, however!

      I don’t really have an angry disposition to that concept, not at all. I just wonder if it’s a sign of slipping – but then, the writers have never let me down yet, so why would they start here? I think it makes for excellent discussion, however. :)

      Goodness, thank you for such a thoughtful comment!

      • Erin

        All excellent points! Oh, Tammy and the gangbangers. I kind of miss Tammy and her totally bizarre decision-making skills, to be honest :)

        I think another thing that Sammy and Ben share is a desire to be not just a cop, but A Cop – yet they both have a distressingly vague idea of what exactly that entails. They’ve both had partners with dominant personalities (not in an aggressive sense, but simply more confident in who they are, what they want, and what being a cop means to them) who made it easy to simply go along with *their* definitions, but now Sammy and Ben are a bit rudderless and kind of muddling through it together. I really hope to see both of them find a balance of life and work that’s right for them, but I suppose that might be a bit too cheery for Southland…

        I’m with you on being cautious about the Lydia storyline. I’m very wary of them making her character all about the baby, but I’m willing to give them a chance and see where they go with it. The choice of whether to have a child, and the very particular obstacles facing a single, successful professional woman who becomes a parent, is potentially a rich dramatic storyline, although many other shows have handled it poorly. I would be very disappointed with a ~healed through her womb~ arc (as you put it so well!), but on the other hand child-centered storylines have been explored in depth with male characters (Sal and Sammy, in particular), so I wouldn’t feel that Lydia as the female lead was being singled out in that respect. Whichever path they choose, the writers will definitely have to tread lightly here :)

        • Oh, Tammy! I couldn’t stand that character – not because of the actress, she did an amazing job. She did SUCH an amazing job that Tammy was perfectly awful and like so many chicks I’ve known. But no one could push Sammy’s buttons like she could, hoo boy.

          “A Cop – yet they both have a distressingly vague idea of what exactly that entails” EXACTLY THIS. I do think Sammy has a better idea – Nate was his mentor and died on the job, never really faltered. John failed Ben’s expectations, and in a huge way. I think we’ll see that Ben doesn’t want to project his hopes on anyone – too risky.

          I’ll definitely be interested in the Lydia-pregnancy storyline and have my fingers crossed it doesn’t becomes “And now Lydia’s happy, The End!” I can’t IMAGINE them going there, but…I’m nervous. I’m glad you brought up the child aspect for the men – that ties in nicely with what Lydia’s mom was saying: “They don’t have to worry because their wives are having the babies.” Well, now we’ll see (maybe) how it works when the woman is on the job. (Although that WORRIES ME. She gets stabbed on the job, you know? Single mom? Augh. That stresses me out, ha.)

  • angela

    My take on Sammy is that he’s one of those guys that drifts through life, always losing out on what he “thinks” he should have. He gets married to someone because that’s expected of him, only it turns out she’s the complete opposite of what a cop’s wife should be, he’s a cop but only because that’s his idea of “being someone”. I think he latched onto Nate because he was the person he wanted to be and he’s trying so desperately to BE Nate but he just doesn’t know how.

    Lydia being preggers just made me shake my head. There are some women that careers are everything and she strikes me as that type. She hates what she came from so she’s actively working to change it but a baby will just throw a huge wrench into it all – she’s going to end up more tied to Watts and the life she’s trying to overcome.

    Lucy Liu is just awesome, I loved the whole storyline of her helping the homeless guy and you’re right, that actor is phenomenal. He’s been in so many things and he just totally disappears into whatever character he’s playing.

    Again, can’t wait for next week’s episode.

    • I definitely agree with you on Sammy. Now that he’s in the mentor role with Ben, he’s doing what he’s supposed to be done, wanting what he’s supposed to want. (And if cool-getting-tail Ben wants that, then it’s cool for Sammy to be satisfied with that life, as well.) I think deep down he DOES want some normalcy, the 2.1 kids and van, because it would be stable, and he’s had a lot taken away from him. (Also, I think he came to like that when he was living with Nate’s family after his death. Just my take, obv.)

      Lydia being pregnant feels like they’re short changing one of the most interesting female characters on TV – but then I think that I’m negating the choice to be a mother (which is laughable, as I *am* a mother) but. She’s put so much work into making a very specific path for herself. Sure, she’s seem unsure and unhappy at times, but that’s life. I’ll be interested in how the writers play this out, that’s for sure. (Mostly it’s just hit me from left field.)

      Lucy Liu’s care for Tom was just gut wrenching to watch as it became apparent what the subtext was. THAT is why I know the story line with Lydia will be okay – the writers are just too damn good, you know?

      I can’t wait, either. This show is so outstanding. (Plus I get all of the interesting comments from people to play with, that’s pretty choice, too!)

  • Sally R

    I want to know more about the baby daddy. I mean… in the previous ep there was a phonecall to someone about coming over. And I’m assuming it was a guy, because if she got pregnant with a woman it wouldn’t be a surprise, right? So… What is this guy like. I think what I’d love to see for Lydia would be how she’d deal with being a mom if she had a man who’d be a stay-at-home dad (I was just reading something yesterday about the rise in fathers as primary caretakers over the last ten years). What’s her support system going to be? And yeah, she’s technically high-risk because after 35 they call women high-risk, but she’s pretty damn healthy and fit.

    Part of me wants her to have an abortion, because I’d like to see how the writers would treat this. The show is usually so good at realism, you know. I think it’s time we had some real approaches to abortion on television. That said, I’d also love to see her have the chance to be a mother because as career-oriented as she is, we’ve seen how much she has to give too.

    • I’m pretty sure it’s established that Lydia is hetero, given her ex-boyfriend (Ocala’s son) And I’m with you – I’d like to see who he is. Although, given the episode’s title “Identity” that might mean we’ll never know.

      I think a real approach to abortion would be interesting, too. I was at least glad that they showed her mother – from a generation where it is one way or the other and nothing grey – that was pretty refreshing.

      I’m just hooked – where ever they take me, I’m pretty confident I’ll go along gladly. They’ve not failed me yet.

  • all I can add is that the Marine Tom storyline made me teary-eyed.

  • Billie

    I am sorry I came to this discussion so late, almost 3 weeks later but I have a question on the Tammy story line, I love to hate Tammy, a fine actress in her own right, I was shocked when it was pointed out to me that she was the same actress that played homicidal/suicidal Stepford wife on Desperate Housewives, but part of why I love to read this forum is because I watch SouthlANd closely, sometimes more than once, and when I read this I become aware of so many things I missed or overlooked or just plain don’t catch, or maybe I am too close to the forest to see the trees but as a cop wife I want to know what everyone means when saying shes not a cop wife, or he wants a cop wife. I love to become aware of all the stuff that all of you see that I miss so I am very anxious to hear as many answers to my question as possible. My fear is that I’m too late to the party. Thank you to all the other fans and to Miss Stone

    • I think Tammy didn’t qualify as a “cop wife” because a) she smoked weed, b) she hated Sammy’s job, c) she took a photospread of one of the gang leaders that Sammy was tracking and was generally not a team player. Sammy wants a girls that will think he’s great, will be happy at home with the kids and do things with the other wives. Like Nate’s wife. You’re not too late to the party! Good shows get talked about for years, promise.